The significant other problem is substantial. I would not underestimate it. It definitely has determined a lot about what I keep. I would sort that out first and foremost. My wife to this day sees every new tank and stares in absolute shock at the size despite knowing the dimensions in advance.
Anyway the cost of making a larger tank look really nice is also much higher then smaller tanks. BUT you can do a lot more with a larger tank. There is a reason why aquascaping competitions are categorized by size of tank. So if you want to bring a tank up to a high level you will output a LOT more money for a larger tank.
On the other hand smaller tanks are nice because you can dump 30 dollars worth of plants in them a single new piece of driftwood. Rearrange a few things and tada totally new aquascape. I think I rescaped my Fluval Spec V at least a dozen times in the space of 18 months before I retired it for an upgrade.
So I guess my advice would be to do what I did. Buy a small tank and hone your skills at aquascaping. Secure an agreement from the significant other that you can upgrade down the road once you feel comfortable maintaining a larger tank, and then when the time comes you will be in a much better place all around.
Just my 2 cents.
yeah your right about sorting it out with the lady. we dont do kids so we each have a room. hers is an office and mine is a meditation/yoga room. that is where I want the FW planted tank. I am really feeling like i need more plants in my life pretty bad, odd feeling.
anyway I am hoping that she give me the go ahead to go what ever I want in that room..lol
yeah everything is more an larger tanks for sure. that said buy once cry once
but I do like your idea of honing my aquascaping skills on a smaller tank then moving up if I feel like it.
I have one on an old 10g(?) metal stand that I put a cedar top on. And a second one on a 45g Aqueon stand I was using for the previous 45g tank. Hated that tank. Still it would be nice to fit both 16s on one 4 foot stand.
ha I was just thinking that I could just get another mini 16 and set up side by side and do different scapes ran off the same Co2 system. I do have a long 4' table that could work for that. only problem is I want to kind the equipment below.
IDK then I would need 2 lights and 2 filters but hey I could have some fun with that.
+ it would be cheaper too.....well maybe depends on how crazy I go :/
I guess one of the most important factors is, is must look clean and nice. that is why I like the 3620 idea once nice tank vs 2 smaller but possible cluttered. I HATE clutter even tho I am a cluttery person. the struggle is real.