Good luck with all of that!Granted, any spouse I have is going to have to deal with the fish tanks. And hopefully help me clean all 500 I eventually add into the theoretical house we get...In return I'll promise to keep the live food cultures restricted to one room of the house as well as just have a small chest freezer to keep all the weird frozen foods away from the main fridge....
That made me laugh!Its part of bringing 2 people together that have differing interests and hobbies. If you want to satisfy your own hobbies, you need to accept that Suri or Alexa, or Hue lights that turn every color but "normal" is part of the deal.
some hobbies take more than money. Things like golf and fishing take massive amounts of time, playing an instrument produces (sometimes awful) noise, soapmaking and soldering put smells in the air, etc. Aquariums hit a bunch of those sore spots. Much as I love fish and the idea of breeding, I don't think I could handle the noise of a fish room. Substrates, fish food, medications, and even algae can develop a bad smell. If you're sharing living space with someone else, it's not just square footage that matters - you're sharing things like air and free time as well. Not to mention the eyesore factor - most decor schemes aren't built with aquariums in mind. People have a right to feel comfortable in their home, and that means compromise and prior discussion.
Thank you both for taking the time to write this. These two contributions should be their own Thread, a Permanent Post-It, in the 'General Planted Tank Discussion' Forum Section.Really should be about trust, respect and transparency.
I am pretty sure that she figured out your strategy long ago. She must be fond of youWhat worked for me was talking to my wife about hobbies I would like to get into after I had already bough a tank, filter, co2 system, etc etc that was "hiding" in the trunk of my car. I talked about the cost of building another race car like I had back when we first met or maybe just classic car restorations, I talked about getting into drones, I talked about trapshooting....maybe we could start golfing.
With every idea we were searching associated costs and she kept rolling her eyes....in the end I looked away and mumbled "maybe I should get another fish tank and save the extra money for a trip or something"
I'm on my 6th tank and since a trip to Jamaica is not an option with covid and all I am trying to figure out where to fit tank #7 LOL