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...while I tend to my real-life issues. So to the people who PM'd me or who might have directed a question or comment to me in a thread somewhere, I apologize if I missed you or didn't get back to you. I promise it's not because I'm ignoring you.
My girlfriend and I are amicably parting ways. It's official as of earlier tonight. We are now broken-up. Before someone asks, NO, it's not because of the hitchhiker's guide fiasco from that other soap opera thread of mine. That, as it turns out, was a non-issue in the grand scheme of things.
The issue is simply that we are growing apart from each other. There is a notable age difference that was never much of an issue, but ultimately we can now see how things are changing between us and we cannot deny that is related to the different areas of life we are in.
I am 32, she is 23. I've already gone through school and found my niche in life, so to speak, while she is just now beginning to discover who she is and is going back to school to become a paralegal. I'm very proud of her, and I truly believe that I was instrumental in getting her to want to return to school. And now that she has, and has gotten a good job at a law office, she rightfully feels that she needs to experience life on her own. We both feel that she needs to discover who she is and really enjoy her 20s, which are all about self-discovery.
I fully support this decision, as much as it hurts, and it is going to be tough living without her. But I completely understand, and I certainly don't want her to pretend she doesn't feel this way, only to end up resenting me and divorcing me later on down the road, after getting married and having kids. So I am actually happy that she has owned up to this and is being honest with me.
Because we live together, this is going to be tough. We haven't figured out the logistics yet, on how we are going to do this. I guess we need to talk to the landlord and see about either breaking the lease, or taking my name off of it. But nonetheless, it's for real. And with this decision comes the reality that I will have to break my tanks down and either move them, or get rid of them. This isn't so easy to think about, since I have no clue where I'll be going. But I want her to stay in our apartment, since it's so close to her mom's place, so I will be the one moving out.
This all pretty much means I will be absent for a little while. This may very well be my last post for a minute. But as always, I'll be back. At least I know that my 10g and 2.5g will be okay. I mean, seriously, I don't even have to drain the 2.5 and it can ride on my lap in the car to wherever I move to. The 10g is almost just as easy. But that poor 45g has already been through 2 moves, and now this makes the 3rd. Maybe I should just give up on that one.
At any rate, I just wanted to let people know that I've got to tend to real life at the moment, so those of you (Left C comes to mind) whom I've promised some plants, don't think I've forgotten about you. I always come through on my promises. It'll just have to be delayed, that's all.
I guess that's all for now. I'll be back when I can. This is just going to be tough, because I really love her, and the paradigm shift will be drastic for me.
Love and light to all.
My girlfriend and I are amicably parting ways. It's official as of earlier tonight. We are now broken-up. Before someone asks, NO, it's not because of the hitchhiker's guide fiasco from that other soap opera thread of mine. That, as it turns out, was a non-issue in the grand scheme of things.
The issue is simply that we are growing apart from each other. There is a notable age difference that was never much of an issue, but ultimately we can now see how things are changing between us and we cannot deny that is related to the different areas of life we are in.
I am 32, she is 23. I've already gone through school and found my niche in life, so to speak, while she is just now beginning to discover who she is and is going back to school to become a paralegal. I'm very proud of her, and I truly believe that I was instrumental in getting her to want to return to school. And now that she has, and has gotten a good job at a law office, she rightfully feels that she needs to experience life on her own. We both feel that she needs to discover who she is and really enjoy her 20s, which are all about self-discovery.
I fully support this decision, as much as it hurts, and it is going to be tough living without her. But I completely understand, and I certainly don't want her to pretend she doesn't feel this way, only to end up resenting me and divorcing me later on down the road, after getting married and having kids. So I am actually happy that she has owned up to this and is being honest with me.
Because we live together, this is going to be tough. We haven't figured out the logistics yet, on how we are going to do this. I guess we need to talk to the landlord and see about either breaking the lease, or taking my name off of it. But nonetheless, it's for real. And with this decision comes the reality that I will have to break my tanks down and either move them, or get rid of them. This isn't so easy to think about, since I have no clue where I'll be going. But I want her to stay in our apartment, since it's so close to her mom's place, so I will be the one moving out.
This all pretty much means I will be absent for a little while. This may very well be my last post for a minute. But as always, I'll be back. At least I know that my 10g and 2.5g will be okay. I mean, seriously, I don't even have to drain the 2.5 and it can ride on my lap in the car to wherever I move to. The 10g is almost just as easy. But that poor 45g has already been through 2 moves, and now this makes the 3rd. Maybe I should just give up on that one.
At any rate, I just wanted to let people know that I've got to tend to real life at the moment, so those of you (Left C comes to mind) whom I've promised some plants, don't think I've forgotten about you. I always come through on my promises. It'll just have to be delayed, that's all.
I guess that's all for now. I'll be back when I can. This is just going to be tough, because I really love her, and the paradigm shift will be drastic for me.
Love and light to all.