now that's never the right way of going about it, getting dumped is just part of life that's how it goes I'm afraid, you just have to hang in there, put it all behind you and next time forget that you ever got hurt and love her just the same and who knows she might end up being "the one".
getting dumped, how do u deal with it?
So my gf dumped me and that sux. I was like a good guy and took alot of crap from her.
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U r right I guess. Just sometimes I took alot of crap from her without me getting back at her and that is eating me right now. I did alot for her , even tried my best to get her a student visa so she would stay here and now she is chosing me over friends ,also, she treated me like crap last week....atleast tell me why u were treating me like crap , which she never did until I pressured her into saying it..she doesnt want me cuz I dont dance and I complainnn alot, , thats is BS she complained more than I did!
Nice dudes do finish last...im gonna date men now , probably they will appreciate me more:bounce:
Nice dudes do finish last...im gonna date men now , probably they will appreciate me more:bounce:
I wouldn't go that far, unless that's natural for you.Nice dudes do finish last...im gonna date men now , probably they will appreciate me more:bounce:
I would suggest you do what I did, which is find a woman older than you. They tend to know what they want and don't play games as much.
Since you originally asked " how do u deal with it?", what usually worked for me when I was younger was to go out with their best friend or sister. That's the best middle finger in that situation.
Take your time and heal. Dont be in a rush. Take an honest inventory of what she says, work on yourself. Talk to a friend or a counselor. Determine what you need from a relationship.
Regardless of the situation, it still hurts. I am sure you will bounce back, just take your time doing so.
chaz
Regardless of the situation, it still hurts. I am sure you will bounce back, just take your time doing so.
chaz
Sounds like she was using you. Don't let that deter you and certainly don't change who you are just because she makes you feel bad...just learn from it and keep your chin up. Becoming a "jerk" will make you like her. Is that who you want to be? Do you want to hurt people and make people feel like she made you feel? (maybe you do right now so don't answer this question for a while...lol)I took alot of crap from her without me getting back at her and that is eating me right now. I did alot for her , even tried my best to get her a student visa so she would stay here and now she is chosing me over friends ,also, she treated me like crap last week....atleast tell me why u were treating me like crap , which she never did until I pressured her into saying it..she doesnt want me cuz I dont dance and I complainnn alot, , thats is BS she complained more than I did!
Nice dudes do finish last...
Nice dudes do not finish last...thats a myth. You just need to find a girl thats going to appreciate that. Give it time...
There are alot more FISH in the SEA. <----I couldn't resist.
Cheer up!!! Go buy yourself something!
Someone once told me, "success is the best revenge." It sure makes it easier to look back and realize that you did well despite what you've been through.
this is written as nothing personal, just as a little tough love:
friends can occasionally treat you like crap because they are having a bad day, or be mad at you about something. if crappy treatment is prolonged, you should question it, and if the answer is not reasonable and forgivable, then it's time to move on and find a new friend. when a women treats a man like crap, she's already dumped him long ago, he just didn't take the hint, only hung on long enough for her to have to spell it out for him. next time don't be such a sap.
adolescent girls may seem to like bad boys, jerks, and men who treat them like crap, but I can assure you that tendency is very short lived. once girls become women, they grow out of such nonsense, and look for a stability and dependability in a man, as well as ambition and confidence. so don't let the obvious waste of time and energy with this girl turn you into a bigger jerk, or deter you from growing up into the accomplished man most desirable women will want and admire.
friends can occasionally treat you like crap because they are having a bad day, or be mad at you about something. if crappy treatment is prolonged, you should question it, and if the answer is not reasonable and forgivable, then it's time to move on and find a new friend. when a women treats a man like crap, she's already dumped him long ago, he just didn't take the hint, only hung on long enough for her to have to spell it out for him. next time don't be such a sap.
adolescent girls may seem to like bad boys, jerks, and men who treat them like crap, but I can assure you that tendency is very short lived. once girls become women, they grow out of such nonsense, and look for a stability and dependability in a man, as well as ambition and confidence. so don't let the obvious waste of time and energy with this girl turn you into a bigger jerk, or deter you from growing up into the accomplished man most desirable women will want and admire.
Hey, it hurts now but try to look at the bright side of it...So my gf dumped me and that sux. I was like a good guy and took alot of crap from her.
If you stayed with her, how much more crap were you willing to take? Now you are free to find a more fulfilling relationship with someone who will appreciate you and the company you can provide. It's her loss!
There is someone out there for you, you just haven't met yet. Here's to your next relationship and hope that it'll be a good one!
Just don't let this bad experience sour you from being a "nice guy", it'll pay off believe me with the right girl
.My 2 cents
Absolutely it sucks being dumped, but having a woman reject you should not be a reason to change yourself fundamentally. Sure it is a great time to evaluate, learn from mistakes, and resolve to be a better partner the next time, but dramatic changes are better left for a time when you are less emotionally volatile. As for revenge, no one benefits when that game is played. You said you're a nice guy and that she took advantage of you. She either took advantage of you or she didn't. The breakup should not be the determining factor in deciding that. If she did, and you did nothing about it, that is a lesson for the next time.
The world is full of too many people who think they need to get revenge, or get the last word, or the last punch. The Jerry Springer show, Maury, and all the other shows of that type would go off the air if people simply learned from their mistakes and moved on.
Everyone has some sh*t in their lives, but people just like plants, without some fertilizers (sh*t) in your life you never grow.
Be the better person. Learn from this situation, but don't look to hurt her like she hurt you. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.
Absolutely it sucks being dumped, but having a woman reject you should not be a reason to change yourself fundamentally. Sure it is a great time to evaluate, learn from mistakes, and resolve to be a better partner the next time, but dramatic changes are better left for a time when you are less emotionally volatile. As for revenge, no one benefits when that game is played. You said you're a nice guy and that she took advantage of you. She either took advantage of you or she didn't. The breakup should not be the determining factor in deciding that. If she did, and you did nothing about it, that is a lesson for the next time.
The world is full of too many people who think they need to get revenge, or get the last word, or the last punch. The Jerry Springer show, Maury, and all the other shows of that type would go off the air if people simply learned from their mistakes and moved on.
Everyone has some sh*t in their lives, but people just like plants, without some fertilizers (sh*t) in your life you never grow.
Be the better person. Learn from this situation, but don't look to hurt her like she hurt you. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.
Now those are words everyone should keep in mind! Well said!Everyone has some sh*t in their lives, but people just like plants, without some fertilizers (sh*t) in your life you never grow.
It is hard being dumped. If you were taking crap from this girl then just get back subtley. The hardest blow to anyone is when their ex dates their Best friend or sister. Why this is? Unsure but it works all the same.
If you want to try men so be it. But dont change just because you feel you had enough of women to not continue on. It is your choice but simply changing out of anger will only end horribly.
Payback may seem great right now but it is not. Simply be calm and collective and ignore everything she does. Like said find a Woman. They wont play with your mind or emotions.
When someone gives you a reason like "You cant dance" there is always something else.
Always find some flaws winthin yourself. To me it seems your were being too nice. Take so much and then comfront her about it. Dont take every blow she throws. Keep your chin up, spirits high, and trust that eventually someone will come your way.
If you want to try men so be it. But dont change just because you feel you had enough of women to not continue on. It is your choice but simply changing out of anger will only end horribly.
Payback may seem great right now but it is not. Simply be calm and collective and ignore everything she does. Like said find a Woman. They wont play with your mind or emotions.
When someone gives you a reason like "You cant dance" there is always something else.
Always find some flaws winthin yourself. To me it seems your were being too nice. Take so much and then comfront her about it. Dont take every blow she throws. Keep your chin up, spirits high, and trust that eventually someone will come your way.
Drink lots of orange juice. DO NOT, i repeat DO NOT, mix that with vodka to make a tasty screwdriver. You are underaged, and that is not appropriate. Let the adults take care of the drinking ok?
LOL, well said and this made me chuckleAbsolutely it sucks being dumped, but having a woman reject you should not be a reason to change yourself fundamentally. Sure it is a great time to evaluate, learn from mistakes, and resolve to be a better partner the next time, but dramatic changes are better left for a time when you are less emotionally volatile. As for revenge, no one benefits when that game is played. You said you're a nice guy and that she took advantage of you. She either took advantage of you or she didn't. The breakup should not be the determining factor in deciding that. If she did, and you did nothing about it, that is a lesson for the next time.
The world is full of too many people who think they need to get revenge, or get the last word, or the last punch. The Jerry Springer show, Maury, and all the other shows of that type would go off the air if people simply learned from their mistakes and moved on.
Everyone has some sh*t in their lives, but people just like plants, without some fertilizers (sh*t) in your life you never grow.
Be the better person. Learn from this situation, but don't look to hurt her like she hurt you. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.
.I agree with the world is too far out there for revenge, don't do anything rash.
And you know what? The best way to get back is? To show her that you can do perfectly well and are perfectly fine without her! That'll get her more than whatever other petty "revenge" counter could do!
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First off, you need to learn to love yourself. From the limited stuff posted in this thread you seem to have made yourself her glorified slave. Regardless of who you're dating, you'll get dumped and heartbroken if you keep being like this.
Know what you want with your life. Focus on your studies and preparing yourself for the career that you want. If having a significant other will deter you from this goal/path, let her/him know and dump/put them aside if they do not change.
Have good friends, have fun with them and help each other.
You can date the best friend of the sister of the ex, and it is pretty easy to do, and will devastate her if you turn out to be a really good bf. However, that's just asking for trouble. You'll probably see her often due to this and find yourself never moving on. You're also just using the best friend or sister, unless they turn out be really good decisions. If not, which most likely will be the case, you'll end up having one more broken relationship. Where did it get you? Nowhere.
Learn and move on.
Know what you want with your life. Focus on your studies and preparing yourself for the career that you want. If having a significant other will deter you from this goal/path, let her/him know and dump/put them aside if they do not change.
Have good friends, have fun with them and help each other.
You can date the best friend of the sister of the ex, and it is pretty easy to do, and will devastate her if you turn out to be a really good bf. However, that's just asking for trouble. You'll probably see her often due to this and find yourself never moving on. You're also just using the best friend or sister, unless they turn out be really good decisions. If not, which most likely will be the case, you'll end up having one more broken relationship. Where did it get you? Nowhere.
Learn and move on.
Tom Leykis is a great inspiration for guys who feel like they have been kicked in the crotch.
http://www.blowmeuptom.com/
http://www.blowmeuptom.com/
this along with confidence will make her regret for the oncoming years but by then you wouldn't have to worry about a single femaleKnow what you want with your life. Focus on your studies and preparing yourself for the career that you want.
:thumbsup:Well , I gave her a call and gave her a piece of my mind.She was getting pissed off in wat I had to say and I told her to shudup and listen , damn u girl...well not shudup but be quite cuz i am still a nice guy:icon_mrgr She said she was sorry for treating me like crap. To make a story short , we agreed to be atleast friends and once in awhile we can talk on the phone. Funny thing is she still has to come here to pick her stuff up, so...hopefully we can still have some whooopy while she is here:icon_mrgr(jk)
I dont feel hurt actually , I did lose my luv for her some weeks ago so Im ok with the breakup now and she knows that. So it was a mutual breakup but still...I cant let a woman walk all over me...it was a learning experience, this iswat i took from this relationship :icon_bigg
I dont feel hurt actually , I did lose my luv for her some weeks ago so Im ok with the breakup now and she knows that. So it was a mutual breakup but still...I cant let a woman walk all over me...it was a learning experience, this iswat i took from this relationship :icon_bigg
You have a good attitude about it now. That is the hardest part, so pat yourself on the back. Moving on and cutting the ties between you is the best thing you can do now. If it will cause you pain to hear about her life without you, then skip the phone calls.
Besides, now that you don't have to pay for dates for a while, think of all the money you can put into your tank!
Besides, now that you don't have to pay for dates for a while, think of all the money you can put into your tank!
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