sorry
I am sorry to anybody that my post felt polarizing or left people uncomfortable, it was not my intention at all, nor was I was trolling the forum. I simply wanted to hear some opinions as a new person involved in this hobby, and question my own failures and intent.
So far, I witnessed beautiful stories that resonated with me, and I understand each person involved has their own free will and feelings, unlike the species we put in our tanks.
Some things I really enjoyed reading:
a). The garden when you can't have a garden - I think this was my impetus to get a tank, we don't have too much space here in san francisco. It's also something fun to come home to or think about. I also enjoy raising bog plants. I like having a happy home - some people here even wanted to see people's homes with aquariums - back to my cats and dogs, books, etc. question.
b). Spirit garden - someone described a situation where the garden is a metaphor of life / violence/ death / birth / calm - I get this, but felt down at the time of posting - I have had several shrimp die and I feel horrid. While I am feeling bad, is it ok to feel self-centered and continue experiencing joy from living fish or shrimp, etc., while they are living in sub-prime conditions? What if you think they are living but you don't really know, and are suffering from a lack of empathy?
c). Scale / creativity / design - someone mentioned scale and HO trains - I think this is an astute observation of how and why something looks great, or might be considered "art." I don't consider an aquarium as "art" for the sole reason that you would not go to a neighbor's beautiful flowers and say oh wow, that's art flower garden. We make a mistake when the appearance has four walls and suddenly is an object in the home and no longer in the wild (i.e. it's mine).
Just some thoughts - I'm not trying to piss people off, but truly I find this interesting. I had no rituals for my dead, mostly just stress, like really? Why did you buy this tank?>
