I've made some progress. Between Digikey sending me the wrong parts, and then the correct parts getting shipped from MN to TX, via Honolulu, I finally got them.
I'm using MrMan's board. He had some extras so I just bought one from him. Putting it together wasn't too bad. I did build a solder reflow oven as many of the parts are SMD. That helped a ton! I couldn't imagine soldering the small tri-state drivers.
I've almost finished the outlets and relay. I used the Mr DJ PCS200 that O2Surplus used. You can get them at Fry's for $25 and they have room for the relay board. You can also use the physical switch as well. I really liked that.
The only other issue I hit was trying to use a 16MB SDCARD. For whatever reason it can't be read by the arduino. So I ended up using a 8GB one I had laying around. Wish I could figure out how to get the small one working