I can only speak for my own unusual circumstances. Sometimes odd, scary, and weird fit too.
I've had this long-standing habit of getting into huge long-term projects around the house. For the last two years, I've been working on a detached workshop with a greenhouse attachment. My son is off at school 3 hours away, so in addition to just not having enough hours in a week, working solo makes jobs really drawn out if not a little scary. But after two solid years I'm just about there and should have a much cleaner schedule by the end of this summer
So for me, it's 90% a simple lack of time to commit to much of anything more than what I'm currently working on. The other 10% is simply geography. Meetings / functions west if I287 stand a much better chance of seeing me there.
"Why can't my wife see all of this stuff as an investment?"