Do you have Ottos? I used to have this problem with my very first tank so I chose to remove the rotala after nothing worked. Once the ottos passed away I rescaped my tank and decided to try rotala out again! And to my surprise (same substrate and same amount of liquid ferts) the rotala was growing beautifully!! Fast forward exactly 3 weeks ago and I picked up some ottos from the lfs and today as Im typing this have come to the conclusion that its how aggressively the ottos go through the rotala and how they suck on it. If you observe them while they go through it youllsee that once they let go of a leaf, the leaf is completely wrinkled and bent.
Sorry for bringing this thread back up but hope this helps!!