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Old 02-18-2013, 03:45 PM   #1
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How often do we read a post and it says "my wife or girlfriend does not let me use the kitchen sink or won't let me have another fish tank" blah blah blah. What is wrong with some of you guys? The day my girlfriend says I can't do something is the day that I'm becoming single....and she's very aware of that. Generally when I get into a new relationship I explain all the hobbies that I am into and tell her that they pretty much come with a package deal. So if you want me then you get my hobbies as well. It works both ways...if she's into pottery or yoga then I'll attend a few sessions with you. But under no circumstances will I ever tell a girl that she "cannot" do yoga or a weaving class knowing that she was into these things prior to meeting me. Which is the same reason that your significant other shouldn't tell you what you can and cannot do.

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Old 02-18-2013, 03:48 PM   #2
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I think most of that is more for comedic value.
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Old 02-18-2013, 03:51 PM   #3
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I think most of that is more for comedic value.
Yeah some are but others really mean it. There is a guy in the DIY section who built a whole PVC pipe contraption from the second floor because his wife didn't let him use the kitchen sink for water changes. LOL. I am literally still laughing at the device...it was by far the funniest thread I've ever read on here.

PS. My thread is kind of similar...hopefully it adds some comedic value.
PSS. I wonder how many guys looked over their shoulder prior to clicking into this thread.
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Imagine going through all the divorces and battling custody of your kids just because you can't have another tank.
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Imagine going through all the divorces and battling custody of your kids just because you can't have another tank.
I'm not a guy, but I can't imagine this, simply because I think kids and family should always come before hobbies... if someone honestly can't make that choice, then I feel they may have bigger issues than breaking up over a tank - especially if they don't recognize it.
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I'm not a guy, but I can't imagine this, simply because I think kids and family should always come before hobbies... if someone honestly can't make that choice, then I feel they may have bigger issues than breaking up over a tank - especially if they don't recognize it.
Exactly. Just replying to op when mentioned about being single if his gf will not allow him to do a certain thing . Marriage is a whole different animal.
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Old 02-18-2013, 10:28 PM   #7
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Marriage is a whole different animal.
+10 haha. Marriage needs a whole new set of eyeglasses.
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i think that maybe some of the times its one of those things where if the wife wasn't saying no, they would end up on hoarders. tanks everywhere, tiny walkways, even a bridge of tanks. hehe i can just see the hoarders crews faces. OMG its so beautiful.....but my god, there must be 12,000 tanks in here.....then out of a planted 250 pops the crazed husband with boesemani rainbow in his mouth!
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i think that maybe some of the times its one of those things where if the wife wasn't saying no, they would end up on hoarders. tanks everywhere, tiny walkways, even a bridge of tanks. hehe i can just see the hoarders crews faces. OMG its so beautiful.....but my god, there must be 12,000 tanks in here.....then out of a planted 250 pops the crazed husband with boesemani rainbow in his mouth!
Bwhahahaha this made me laugh out loud!

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i think that maybe some of the times its one of those things where if the wife wasn't saying no, they would end up on hoarders. tanks everywhere, tiny walkways, even a bridge of tanks. hehe i can just see the hoarders crews faces. OMG its so beautiful.....but my god, there must be 12,000 tanks in here.....then out of a planted 250 pops the crazed husband with boesemani rainbow in his mouth!
OMG laughing so hard i'm crying. Ooooh the visuals!

Oh and I think is because men don't negotiate as well as women. I started with a 2 gallon fishbowl, and have negotiated my way up to 2 90G's a 20G and a 15G. Probably about a dozen other tanks of assorted sizes have come and gone in the process of me getting to my big tanks. As long as I'm not spending a fortune, and I don't make a mess. He could care less.

Besides, he still plays with lego, and that stuff costs a fortune! He gets a couple lego sets. I get a new aquarium, or light hood or w/e i need at the time. If I want money for my hobby, I make sure there's some for his.
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Besides, he still plays with lego, and that stuff costs a fortune! He gets a couple lego sets. I get a new aquarium, or light hood or w/e i need at the time. If I want money for my hobby, I make sure there's some for his.
My son is 4 1/2 and just getting into LEGO's. I help him do them, and I patiently sit back and let him even though I want to dive in there and do the whole thing. Always a kid at heart
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Some may be the less dominant part of the relationship.

Some may not pay enough attention to their chores or even their partner because of the tanks so it becomes sort of a nemesis.

Some may have really bad taste in Aquascaping so there is nothing to be proud of for her when visits come. Multiple bad looking tanks? Esthetics.

Some may be spending to much of their budget.

Small apt?

I do a lot of good things for her and vice versa.... you won't believe the things we allow each other to do.
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some may be the less dominant part of the relationship.

Some may not pay enough attention to their chores or even their partner because of the tanks so it becomes sort of a nemesis.

Some may have really bad taste in aquascaping so there is nothing to be proud of for her when visits come. Multiple bad looking tanks? Esthetics.

Some may be spending to much of their budget.

Small apt?

I do a lot of good things for her and vice versa.... You won't believe the things we allow each other to do.

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Old 02-18-2013, 04:35 PM   #14
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Money is a big aspect of any relationship and is something that should be discussed a lot when the relationship involves marriage, and lets not kid ourselves, a lot of this stuff isn't cheap when you add everything up. I'd be willing to bet that could be the reason for a lot of it.

Another is that women usually have an idea of how they want their house/apt to look and tanks don't always fit nicely into there. Sure 1 can often work but when you have 2-3 it may not as much


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Old 02-18-2013, 04:42 PM   #15
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I agree on the comedic point there. Even though I don't have a girlfriend or wife, my mom still gets in the way of things. She doesn't like it when I spend too much time doing WC, looking at the shrimp, etc. I guess it's just a loneliness thing. Maybe she thinks it gets in the way of schoolwork. I feel sad for you guys, I'm just not to the point where I can't just beg my mom, get good grades.... And tadaaaaahh. A new tank.
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