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Old 04-13-2012, 04:30 AM   #40
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Originally Posted by gordonrichards View Post
Combined I work about 65 hours a week between two jobs, and don't have much time for myself at all. Not sure how much he works but it gets tricky to handle and accept working so much. Maybe he needs to get a better paying job so he can relax. I know I need more money at my 9-5pm

How much does he work? What type of jobs?
High paying? Low paying?

I saw a few people say he might have found someone else or was messing around behind your back. Not sure if that is the case. I think hes having a breakdown.

-Gordon
I believe you are right. He already expressed how stress he is at his job. I know he is stress and I try my best to make it easy on. He works as a volunteer Police Officer 2-3 days a week. He also has another job. His other job is always screwing him in hours. He been promised several times that he was going to get full time, but this job always end up screwing him over. He also looking for a full time police job which is hard. I know he doesn't have a lot of money left over for bills. That why I never asked him for anything. I make sure I have money set aside for us, so we can go to the movies, zoo, ect. I know it bothers him because I pretty way pay for everything. I don't mind. I enjoy his company. I enjoy him. But for him, having me pay for everything hurts him. He is angry that he can't do the nice things I do for him.

I know it been getting to him, and I know I am not the best girlfriend at time. I get needy because I hate being alone. I never realized how much my actions hurt him. How being difficult and not listening has effected our relationship. I told him I was sorry about everything I wish he smack me and set me straight. I told him I was willing to change if he wanted to give us a chance again. We blame each other. When we was talking, I started to show that change and how I will stick with it. That when we agreed on taking a week break or so, and then start slowing working it, seeing where it goes. We agreed if it doesn't going anywhere, that we will break off for good, maybe be friends down the road and move on in our lives.

I told him I know how he feels. To be so stressed out to the point it effects your relationship. It happen to me in past relationships, it happen to me in this current one. How relationship and love works, one big rollarcoaster.
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