I have a few of the most common books on planted tanks, but none have much detail on species behavior.
What I like to know is how specific species behave in low, med, high light. How each responds to trimming, how best to trim each species, etc...
Ecology of Planted Aquarium
Ecyclopedia of Aquarium Plants
One of the best books I've read about plants that you may be interested in is :
Aquarium Plants by Christel Kasselmann
It has some of the things you are specifically looking for. If you get a chance you should definitely check this book out.