Originally Posted by hubbahubbahehe
<-----just a very frustrated man who is on the verge of giving up. How do you not suck?
So how do you not suck? Well I think its a 3 part forumla, patience + LUCK + education = average chance of success. As it turned out, when I first started keeping aquatic life the internet was in its very infantcy, and getting info was usually only found in books, most of which were very DATED or finding out what books were worth reading a bit harder. I guess thats where luck comes in, I met someone that was willing to hang out and talk the hobby with me, which net me decent info. Lastly and for me the biggest factor patience, when I first started in this hobby it was what truely limited my success. So no matter how educated I thought I was, when I was not patient my luck factor took some very nastly downhill turns.
I think I can completely relate to how you feel. As back in the day I had a mighty big "black thumb". As I managed to crash a reef with about 5K in corals and inverts. And after buying 8 Flame Angels at $60 US (across 3 years) a pop I have yet to keep one alive for more then 10 weeks. And I won't even go into the story about my inability to read copper sulphate tests, but you can imagine what high copper levels can do to fish that can't say hey WTF. And sadly I got plenty more disaster stories
Well I would love to try and find a way to keep you from taking a break, but the bad news is, thats exactly what changed everything for me. After I couldn't handle anymore disasters, I said its time for a break. I gave all my saltwater fish remaining to the LFS, my minantis grouper, snowflake morry eel, and a lionfish. Well long story short I got some aftican chiclids from the LFS for those fish I gave them. (highway robbery I know) But was a good thing for me, as basically this was fishkeeping at its easiest. Cause basically my tap water is almost identical to thier home water. (my water is a little higher ph and hardness tho) And all I did was take a one gallon bucket scoup out the water and pour in clear water every day I fed them thus only doing like 20 water changes in 9 years.
Well as it turned out for me getting away for a bit really helped me come back from my disasters. Cause lets face it, there is no more rewarding hobby out there. For me I am just absolutly amased with aquatic life, and even tho I was away for almost 10 years, I knew I would be back. Its been really only ~ 10 weeks since I been back, and just starting slow, right now I am working on becoming the master at growing newbie plants (ambulia, and green hygro), and just taking it slow.
Hey do you have any friends that are also in the hobby? If so that could be something that will really help right now ALOT ! If not how about an aquarium society? I am actually looking into that one for something around here, in hopes of finding some people that I can talk the hobby with, if there is one out by you, might be just the thing you need to break out of this funk !
Sorry for rambling on so much, but I hope it helps.