I'm married for 19 years had tanks before I meet her and have been in and out of the hobby for all of my marriage. Our money is shared. I don't make dumb desicions such as putting off a roof or new appliance because I want another tank. I have one 60 gallon, 2 20 gallon, and 2 ten gallon tanks. I also have a nice koi pond in my yard. My wife understands and likes my hobby, she wants me to do a saltwater tank I said no way! As others have said family comes first then bills, and hobbies can follow. I feel sorry for guys how have to get clearance for every fart they lay. I'm sure they saw these traits before they got married. How could they think that they would be happy?