I found myself taking issue with the author for immediately criticizing the cousin who wore a necklace, with no reflection on character beyond that outward appearance. It was pretty shallow of him, and reflects a paranoia of anyone who seems to be different.
Oh, isn't that the entire basis of peer pressure? Rejection of anyone who is different? Funny how a person who is so very quick to practice that is so terrified of the power of it when used by their children away from their control.
And painting the world as a dangerous, frightening place is critical to keeping their children in their control.
It is hard to ever trust your kids with exercising control over their own lives if they have never had control placed in their own hands.
IMO, the author of this article missed a chance to demonstrate a very important lesson by demonizing that cousin because of his appearance. He ought to have embraced that kid, had lunch with him, tried to learn what was good about him and what he might have been searching for if indeed he was in a group of ill repute and tried to befriend him to offer him a glimpse of a wholesome Christian family, with moral values that are enriching.
But, instead he painted this kid as dangerous and used that to enforce his own power over his child. MIO, that way is a very dangerous path... for perhaps, one day, somehow, that child will learn that he was told a lie by his father, and EVERYTHING the father has said will become suspect.