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post #1 of 11 (permalink) Old 11-16-2012, 07:15 PM Thread Starter
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I lost my job


I lost my job today. A few days ago I wrote on here that my grandfather had passed away. I was the on-call person at work this week ( so I would take customer calls after work hours). His death set off a lot of bad emotions and therefore I missed a bunch of customer calls and ignored other responsibilities. I have been struggling with depression and anxiety for a few months, but my grandpa's death really took me over the edge. I haven't enjoyed my job for a long time. Today they laid me off.

I need to evaluate what I want for a career and what I want out of life. I am lucky that the company will allow me to get unemployment money.

I would appreciate any advice you people can give. Thanks

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post #2 of 11 (permalink) Old 11-16-2012, 07:25 PM
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I am sorry for your loss and wish the best for you.

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post #3 of 11 (permalink) Old 11-16-2012, 08:13 PM
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Take care of yourself and if possible find someone to help you through your troubles then start looking for work with a fresh outlook.

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The best advice I can give: use your tanks as therapy.

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Sounds kinda like me after my deployment, best advice i can give is get help, it could be as simple as a clinical depression or something more serious (clinical is just an imbalance and easily corrected) if i hadnt sought help there is a no telling where i would be in life currently

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Find a good trained counselor to help you with this period of your life. Life isn't always easy and we can't always go it alone.
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post #7 of 11 (permalink) Old 11-16-2012, 10:03 PM
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I'm sorry to hear about the loss and some people can't understand (work) that there are those times that in this case, loss of a loved one can take a toll on us emotionally. This is the time when you need to take care of yourself and it takes time to go through this process. It may feel like you are going crazy so ask for professional advise it does help.

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post #8 of 11 (permalink) Old 11-16-2012, 11:20 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you all for your ideas. I have been seeing a counselor. I am seeing her again tomorrow. I have been in contact with my parents and brother so they are aware of what I'm going through.

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post #9 of 11 (permalink) Old 11-16-2012, 11:29 PM
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My condolences. I'm sorry about your loss and hope things get better for you.
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Best of luck my friend. The sound of the ocean (even a little slice of it) might help smooth your mind in the meantime sorry for your loss. I actually lost my grandpa a few months ago as well. Time heals all wounds

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post #11 of 11 (permalink) Old 11-17-2012, 05:17 AM
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Sorry to hear about this. I've gone through this many times so I understand how it feels.

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