You might hate me for this Freph,
But I saw the new Super Jet ES-300 and the way they designed the lily pipe for it is absolutely spectacular - it maintains a higher flow rate than the eheim 2211, but then disperses the flow in a manner that doesn't disrupt the soil at all. I saw them using it on both a Mini S and a Mini M.
Keep tinkering with it man - I promise you'll get to the skill level you want to achieve with persistence. Remember that the way you feel while maintaining your aquariums will effect the results you get - so practice clearing your mind and be relaxed when you do tasks on the aquarium, your work will reflect it.